Updated: May 3
Did you Know, Singapore is ranked 27 out of 146 Countries for our World Happiness Index (Goody Feed 2022)? So, what is Happiness Index? It is a comprehensive survey that assesses our happiness, well-being, and aspects of sustainability and resilience. With Mental Well-being becoming one of the Key Important Aspects of Living due to COVID-19, here are some tips we thought of to Help with Boosting Happiness Levels during tough times to support you, your loved ones or friends! :
Tip 1 - Knowing What Your Boundaries Are
What is “boundary''? In simple terms, Boundary is a dividing line that indicates the limit or extent of something. They are also ‘rules you set’ in order to not get hurt and let people or things affect your mental well-being - for e.g. if your family or friends decide to do things that cross the line. By figuring out what your boundaries are, the different types of boundaries and how they are applied in different situations, it is a good start to improving your mental health too!
Tip 2 - Finding Out the Types of Boundaries
Hence, do you know there are actually different kinds of boundaries? When it comes to managing Personal, Friendship and Relationship boundaries, these are the sub-boundaries that come to play! : Emotional, Time, and Intellectual Boundaries - which are what we would come across depending on the situations we face.
Thus, you may wonder, what are the differences between them?
Boundaries 1) Personal Boundaries - Knowing yourself and what you are comfortable or uncomfortable with sharing (while you respect others’ boundaries, they should respect yours as well).
2) Friendship Boundaries - In friendships, we will have to recognise or know the importance of setting boundaries (because not everyone you know is necessarily a close tie)
3) Relationship Boundaries - Communication & Understanding may be common things you hear which are important for relationships. However, did you know that maintaining boundaries is equally important in strengthening them too? (Treat others how you would want yourself to be treated)
1) Emotional Boundaries - As the name suggests, emotional boundaries honour your energy and your emotions. (It is okay to have some emotional independence but remember to discuss with your friend or partner what sort of emotional boundaries matter to you and how each of you can work towards building trust)
2) Time Boundaries - How you use your time should be protected by time boundaries. You should not feel obligated to spend time on something that you find unimportant during that time. (People around you would understand if you clearly and politely explain to them that you cannot make a certain commitment)
3) Intellectual Boundaries - Intellectual boundaries refer to your right, your
own opinion, curiosity and ideas. It may be highly unpleasant and hurtful when other people try to force their opinion on us or belittle our beliefs or values. (Be mutually understanding and respectful of other people’s perspectives)
Tip 3 - Applying the Boundaries in Your Daily Life
There are two types of social situations in which you can feel compelled to set boundaries in a friendship or relationship — in person and online. As aforementioned, boundaries can be classed into three areas: emotional, time, and intellectual. Let’s dive right in:
A good starting point would be to understand your relationship patterns. Examine your current friendship boundaries - how comfortable you are with them, and what you would like to get out of your relationship with them. After that, you can expressly set the boundaries with the person.
If it’s your first time meeting people or you’re shy, only reveal what you’re comfortable with! Never feel compelled to say something only to ‘please’ the crowd. It will not only sound and seem forced, but it will also put you under undue stress. Setting boundaries requires not over-explaining, since everyone has the right to decide what they do and do not want to do.
Since the pandemic began, Zoom meetings have become more popular, and more meetings, ranging from work to even the most basic social gatherings, have transitioned online. It’s possible that some of us have already met these people. Or perhaps you have had online meetings with people you have only known vaguely.
Here’s a way to ease your discomfort if you do not feel comfortable being in the spotlight: (Especially for social gatherings) If feasible, request permission to turn off your camera, and inform the liaison ahead of time that you, for example, are an introvert who would prefer to attend anonymously before committing yourself by making an introduction.
In a nutshell, setting healthy boundaries is an important aspect of self-care. It’s a crucial skill that not only helps us become more aware of ourselves but also improves our interpersonal interactions.
It’s important to remember that making these requests isn’t self-centered, disrespectful, or demanding. It’s about recognizing your value, understanding your priorities, and ensuring that others do as well!
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